Discover the Key Ingredient in
Overcoming the Addictions of Masturbation and Pornography
Another
word for Abuse
is misuse. When you abuse or misuse, you are using a good thing for the
wrong purpose.
The
problem of Masturbation and Pornography involves an individual using Sexuality in a wrong way.
Essentially, we human beings are distinct from our physical make-up. Our bodies are like
the houses where we live. They are equipment given to us by God to perform
various tasks in order to secure our existence
and survival on earth. We control our bodies and
not vice versa.
Masturbation
and Pornography as False Remedies
A common theme in the stories
relayed by people with the addictions is the
attempt to use the habitual act of Masturbation
and Pornography to escape reality. Somebody would say: "Every time I get
overwhelmed or stressed out, I surrender
to Lust, Masturbation
and Fantasy".
Nevertheless, there is an inner believe
system that weakens a person's resolve not to use his body for a wrong purpose.
Poor Self Image
makes an individual feel that he is not good enough. His mind agrees to the false
notion that he does not merit good experience like Peace,
Satisfaction, Love
etc. He tries to steal them by abusing his body
and indirectly abusing the physical bodies of others.
Though the individuals with the challenge of Masturbation and Pornography
usually explain that they are overwhelmed by Triggers.
The trigger for examples may be spotting the picture of a sexy lady on a
billboard on the way to work, beholding the well-shaped figure of a female
client or a Stressful conditions.By mentioning recurrent Stress as one of the triggers, an individual should understand that Masturbation and Pornography addiction may develop when Anger towards self, others or God is formed. The individual indulges in the addiction as a way to Punish self and others for his present distress. Unreasonable Expectation is involved. Envy of others and their achievement is also a possible reason.
The thought pattern of the affected individual may be: "My friends are having a loving marital relationships and I am not", “I wish I was married,” or “I wish my marriage was more intimate.”
The individual is somehow dissatisfied at the way his or her life has turned out and the blame is attributed to God. He or she turns to Masturbation and Pornography as a way to rebel.
Key Ingredient in
Overcoming the Addictions of Masturbation and Pornography
The individual must come to the realization that no matter how flawed he is, he is still Special in the true sense of the word. He is loved by God. Perfection is not a pre-condition for acceptance. He should recognize that other people have no right to judge him because they have their own inadequacies as well.
The individual must come to Peace with himself. He has to accept all his natural attributes that cannot be changed for example his physical appearance, complexion, height etc.
He should always put into practice the Truth that states that as a creature of God, he deserves the Best and others also deserve to be treated in the best way possible.
As he willingly steps into the time of Recovery, he should use it as a time to Rediscover himself, to discover his Passion for living. It is a time to pursue his life Goals and Vision. It is a time to practice and receive unconditional Love.
This time is the period to deal with any lingering aftermath of Childhood Abuse. Nursing a grudge about the psychological and physical wound inflicted on him by the Offender must give way to Forgiveness and Release.
Finally, the person battling with the
challenge of Masturbation and Pornography must
stop living in the Past. The past is gone and
beyond your grasp. The Future is promissory.
What you have is Today. You cannot do anything
about the past or the future since they are abstract. Nonetheless, something can be done today that
will affect the future positively and Erase the
problems that were created in the past.
